Constant overthinking
Replaying conversations, second-guessing your partner's words, or analysing every text for hidden meaning.
Therapy & support
Relationship anxiety support that helps you feel steady again.
Relationship anxiety is the persistent worry, doubt or fear that can surface in a relationship — even when things are going well. It can leave you overthinking, seeking constant reassurance, or bracing for the relationship to end. You don't have to manage it alone, and it doesn't mean your relationship is doomed. With the right support, most people learn to feel calmer, more secure and more present with the people they love.
What it looks like
Common signs of relationship anxiety.
Relationship anxiety can look different for everyone, and it can shift over time. These are some of the most common patterns — not a checklist or a diagnosis, just a starting point for understanding what you might be experiencing.
Fear of abandonment
A lingering worry that the relationship will end — even when things are going well — that can drive clinginess or withdrawal.
Needing constant reassurance
Seeking repeated confirmation that your partner still cares, and feeling unsettled when it's not immediately available.
Self-sabotage
Picking fights, pulling away, or finding flaws in an otherwise good relationship as a way to protect yourself from getting hurt.
Physical tension
Tight chest, trouble sleeping, or a knot in your stomach that flares up when you think about the relationship.
Comparing your relationship
Measuring your connection against friends, family or social media — and worrying yours isn't measuring up.
How therapy can help
Evidence-based approaches for relationship anxiety.
Therapy for relationship anxiety draws on well-researched approaches. The goal isn't to eliminate anxiety entirely — it's to change your relationship with it, so it no longer runs the show.
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT)
CBT helps you identify the anxious thoughts driving your behaviour — like 'they're going to leave me' or 'I'm not enough' — and test them against reality. You'll learn to catch the thought spirals early and respond in ways that reduce anxiety rather than fuel it.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
ACT teaches you to make room for anxious feelings without being ruled by them. Instead of fighting or suppressing the worry, you'll learn to observe it, anchor yourself in the present, and act on what matters most to you in the relationship.
Attachment-informed work
Understanding your attachment style — and how it was shaped — gives the anxiety context. Recognising old patterns lets you choose new responses, so past wounds stop dictating how you show up today.
What to expect
A calm, practical path forward.
In your first session, we'll talk through what's been happening — without judgement. You don't need to have the right words or a tidy explanation; you just need to start. Together we'll map the patterns, the triggers and the thoughts that fuel the anxiety.
From there, sessions are a mix of understanding and practice. You'll learn concrete strategies to steady yourself in the moment, question the thoughts that spiral, and communicate in ways that bring you closer instead of pushing the other person away.
Many people notice a shift within a few sessions — less time spent overthinking, more presence, and a growing sense that the anxiety doesn't have to call the shots.
50 mins
Per session
Online
Telehealth, from anywhere
Confidential
Private and respectful
Ready to feel steadier in your relationships?
If relationship anxiety is part of a breakup or dating pattern you're working through, the From Heartbreak to Healthy Love course walks you through it step by step. You can also get in touch with any questions about the course or clinical supervision.